THAT movie

So we went to see the latest star-studded movie "What to expect when Expecting".
WARNING! Big rant session is about to start!

My husband actually mentioned this in his blog and it got me thinking, and brooding and now ranting!
What a load of rubbish!!!!

When you adopt you definitely do not just have a home visit and have to produce your wedding photo to a non-interested social worker! This movie makes a mockery of the process and Hollywood is not helping to promote adoption or to portray a trustworthy insight into the process and how special it is.

The very first thing that really ticked me off was how they portrayed the adoptive father to be. How wrong did they not get this character. You don`t just decide to adopt out of thin air and then claim not to be ready for it! There are several years of trying unsuccessfully to conceive, then there is the tests and the spermiograms and inseminations and IVF and everything that goes hand in hand with those procedures. You kind off want to be committed already when you walk down this road..

Then you grieve your infertility and all the emotions that you experience with that loss and only after all that does the penny drop that adoption might just give you this child that you know desperately want. Believe me, you are more than committed to do whatever it takes! A husband is the one that keeps it all together, that are the strong one, the one that holds and comforts and wipes away your tears and tells you everything will be all right. He is definitely NOT the one soliciting conflict.

Then there is the social workers. There is no cold heartedness at all. We only ever experience passion for the  process and the people involved. Not only are they there for the birth mother and baby but also for us the adoptive parents. Definitely another miss from the movie`s producers!

What crap did they portray at the end of the movie when this couple receive their baby? This sentimental ceremony only Hollywood can produce. Did they even do any research into how these things are really done?  A huge thumbs down!!!

When you get pregnant naturally you needn`t prove that you can actually afford this baby nor do you have to complete endless paperwork asking you to produce everything short of your DNA chain. You don`t have to go for psychometric tests and interviews with a psychiatrist. Who gives a toss if you are a weirdo or a paedophile when you can conceive naturally? Nor do you have to prove how good your marriage is or how strong your relationship is. Nobody asks if your home is suitable or not. Nobody needs to give you a character reference or five.

Yet we do not mind. We jump through the hoops that needs jumping and we do this with the absolute conviction that we will be regarded good enough to receive the greatest gift anyone can give us! That we will become the parents we do desperately want to be and can not wait to become. There is no self doubt just utter excitement. There is no marital conflict. Only hope and trust in the Lord that there is a plan for our lives and that it will include our own bundle of joy.